redesign for faster cpu/gpu synch (#1869)

* redesign for faster cpu/gpu synch

* load + more async CPU

* use command encoder API and move more ops to use it

* make fence back-end generic + CPU only fence

* faster build

* fix async eval

* fixes + handle temporaries

* fix / improve cpu conv

* remove unused status, fix siblings

* fix extensions

* fix

* fix no cpu build

* format

* comments

* fix perf regression, remove unecessary abort

* fix events, task limit cpu

* fix waiting

* fix donation / temporaries in normalization

mlx/backend/common/compiled.h

@@ -62,7 +62,6 @@ void compiled_allocate_outputs(
     std::vector<array>& outputs,
     const std::vector<array>& inputs_,
     const std::unordered_set<uintptr_t>& constant_ids_,
-    bool contiguous,
-    bool move_buffers = false);
+    bool contiguous);
 
 } // namespace mlx::core