[CUDA] Reduce use of managed memory (#2725)

* Use async cuda malloc managed with cuda 13

* add pool threshold

* refactor for regular cuda malloc

* load eval gpu for cuda

* remove use of cuda pool, use cuda free async

* fix

* fix

* fix

* fix

* fix + comment

mlx/backend/common/slicing.cpp

@@ -45,7 +45,7 @@ void slice(
     const Shape& start_indices,
     const Shape& strides) {
   if (out.size() == 0) {
-    out.set_data(nullptr);
+    out.set_data(allocator::malloc(0));
     return;
   }