[CUDA] Switch to CUDA graphs (#2317)

* cuda graph prototype

fix signal bug + start to add dependencies

capture more

capture more ops

remaining ops

fix reduce and rope deps

add concurrent context

try update, but not working

cosistent topology order

use node api

use node api directly to reduce overhead

fix bug

use kernels in unary

cache graph

format

fix synchronization

format

* comment

mlx/backend/cuda/utils.h

@@ -4,6 +4,7 @@
 
 #pragma once
 
+#include <cuda.h>
 #include <cuda_runtime.h>
 
 namespace mlx::core {
@@ -33,6 +34,7 @@ class CudaStream {
 
 // Throw exception if the cuda API does not succeed.
 void check_cuda_error(const char* name, cudaError_t err);
+void check_cuda_error(const char* name, CUresult err);
 
 // The macro version that prints the command that failed.
 #define CHECK_CUDA_ERROR(cmd) check_cuda_error(#cmd, (cmd))