Make GHA tests parallel by using xdist (#32361)

* Add two no-op jobs named "all-prechecks" and "all"

These are a suggestion from @tgamblin, they are stable named markers we
can use from gitlab and possibly for required checks to make CI more
resilient to refactors changing the names of specific checks.

* Enable parallel testing using xdist for unit testing in CI

* Normalize tmp paths to deal with macos

* add -u flag compatibility to spack python

As of now, it is accepted and ignored.  The usage with xdist, where it
is invoked specifically by `python -u spack python` which is then passed
`-u` by xdist is the entire reason for doing this.  It should never be
used without explicitly passing -u to the executing python interpreter.

* use spack python in xdist to support python 2

When running on python2, spack has many import cycles unless started
through main.  To allow that, this uses `spack python` as the
interpreter, leveraging the `-u` support so xdist doesn't error out when
it unconditionally requests unbuffered binary IO.

* Use shutil.move to account for tmpdir being in a separate filesystem sometimes

lib/spack/llnl/util/tty/pty.py

@@ -228,8 +228,8 @@ def __init__(self, controller_function, minion_function):
         self.minion_function = minion_function
 
         # these can be optionally set to change defaults
-        self.controller_timeout = 1
-        self.sleep_time = 0
+        self.controller_timeout = 3
+        self.sleep_time = 0.1
 
     def start(self, **kwargs):
         """Start the controller and minion processes.