* trilinos: update dependencies
Use the tribits deps to clarify some dependencies, and group some together
using `with` statements, eliminating some transitive conflict duplication.
* trilinos: Restricit cuda incompatibility
* e4s: vastly reduce number of packages in trilinos-cuda build
Not clear who the customers of cuda-enabled trilinos are, or what options
they need, or which sets of options conflict...
* e4s: remove ~wrapper from trilinos+cuda
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